Question

Hello beautiful womyn! I am currently working on some semester final papers due in a couple of days. This means a hold on The Fantasy... until the papers get done (4 maybe 5 days). So in the mean time I have a question.

If you are going out with a friend or friends to a movie, dinner, or dancing/club, how much would you disclose when you are in a relationship or just dating? Do you give her the answer to Who, What, When, Where, and How?

I brought this up because I read No Love Lost by A Brown Girl (check it out!). She talked about “just dating” and how sometimes dating may not turn into relationships.

So are there differences in disclosure for dating than in relationships?

I would think so because if I were in a relationship with someone I would tell all… to an extent. Not a “keeping secrets” extent but a “trust me” extent. I want the person that I am with to trust ME to do the right thing, not my friends.

As for dating, I would not tell all. If there is openness to our communication, there should not be a problem with whom I am hanging out. It should be understood that dating is exactly what it is dating.

So tell me ladies what would you do?

Wednesday Crush of the Week: Moon Bloodgood

So I decided to start a blog once every hump day for a little boost to get you through the rest of the week. Hopefully it strikes conversation, blogging, gets you out of writers block, or maybe just as simple as a little eye candy... Enjoy!

The fantasy... Pt. 3

I started off telling you the story like every fairy tale story is told by saying, "once upon a time there were two females". You laughed at me but I told you I was being serious. I continued the story it was of the first time we officially met.

We met in the cafeteria of our university we were attending during breakfast. I was a sophomore and you were a senior. I was not sure why I did not meet a year ago, but I just figured we were not supposed to meet until we did.

We both worked out in the morning and I would see you come into the cafeteria a few minutes after everyday. I got the courage to say something to you when we almost bumped into each other. I was going to get a seat while you were going to get your food. I asked you to sit with me and you did.

While we were talking I asked you about your workout plan. You told me about it then invited me to join you the next day. I was nervous after I said yes because you told me you started at 5am. But I kind of liked you so I wanted to get to know you. I gave you my number and where I lived then went off to class.

The next day came and you met me outside of my dorm room. I was excited to see you again. The rest is history.

By the time I finished telling you the story I realized that you fell asleep holding me. I knew you were tired from all the driving you did so I let you sleep. I laid in your arms thinking about how favored I was to have you in my life. After a while I fell asleep too.

The next morning you woke me up with your soft kisses on my neck. I moaned and said good morning turned around and kissed you back. The kissing started to get passionate I held your face in my hands. My hand slowly moved away from your face and I began to slowly caress your soft body.

Our kissing never stopped but you began kissing my next and I your ears. We both moaned in approval. You asked me if you could kiss me all over my body. I remember telling you while moaning yes baby you can kiss me anywhere you like.

To be continued...

The fantasy... Pt. 2

You managed to come out of the bathroom naked; I could see all your curves. I loved starring at you naked. The mens clothing you wore always covered your body but your stud swagger was still strong in all of your nakedness. When I came out of my daze I told you to grab my iPod out of my bag and bring the towels. You came outside put the towels down and docked the iPod in the jacuzzi then pressed play. You were complaining that it was soo cold and I could see you were cold because your nipples were perking. I asked you to please come join me.

You got in right next to me and realized I still had my bra on; you were soo quick to take it off of me. I gave you a kiss it was soo passionate. We got soo close to each other that our breasts were touching. Your body felt so good on my body. I gave you a big hug and then gave you my hand. I told you I loved you and that I was excited to be there with you. You explained to me that you knew I was stressed and needed a break.

Although you supported me through school, sometimes you felt neglected and I knew that and felt bad. I really did not know how to make this situation any better so I just avoided the conversation. All I knew was that I loved you and you loved me.

We had a long conversation about it while we were in the jacuzzi. I came close to you and started rubbing your back while we talked. You loved when I rubbed your back and I loved how you felt in my hands. I knew it would make you sleepy so I decided that we should get out of the jacuzzi and on to the bed to cuddle.

We ran back into our suite dried each other off and got into the bed naked. To the left of our king sized bed there was this window and when I looked out of it all I could see were stars. There were soo many stars. To the right of our bed there was a wood-burning fireplace. The fire was burning; I adored the smell of wood burning. I could not have asked for anymore.

You took me into your arms. I loved being in your arms you kept me warm and I didn't want you to let me go. I told you I loved you and asked you why me? Why now? All you said was you knew me loved me and that was all that mattered. I took in every word you said. I thought about it for a minute or so you nudged me to see if I was still awake.

I inhaled your seductive smell and you kissed me on my forehead. You asked me if I “remembered” honestly I had no idea what you were talking about. You asked me two more times and final I seductively said, “oh I remember”. You then asked me to tell it to you.

To be continued…

The fantasy... Pt. 1

Yesterday you told me to pack my bag because you were taking me somewhere. I had a million and one questions for you but you refused to answer even one. You knew I had been stressed because of all my class work. It felt like it was close to the end of my last semester and I was stressed about graduating in a couple of months. So I was kind of hesitant to pack my bag not knowing when I would be back to do my work, but I trusted you so I packed my bag.

The next night you came over to my apartment and I made you dinner and you ate but I was afraid you would get sleepy while driving so I was hesitant on giving you seconds. You told me that you were so excited to see my face when we got where ever we were going that you would not fall asleep. After dinner I got my bag, but you told me you would get that for me. I love when you do that for me even though sometimes I get upset because I can do it myself.

We drove... and drove, listening to your iPod the music was bumping in the car. You held my hand the whole way there, even though I fell asleep while you drove. The mood in the car was lovely and I was happy you asked me to come. I still did not have any clue on where we were going but I was not as stressful then. When I woke up I saw soo much snow and a building that looked like a cabin.

I was smiling ear to ear and jumping up and down. You told me to get out the car and I almost fell out of the car because I was soo excited. I got out the car and you knew I would be cold and before I said anything you went to the trunk and got me a blanket. You wrapped it around me and I gave you the biggest hug. My words were soo jumbled up that I just kissed you passionately. You stopped me putting your index finger on my mouth and told me to wait. You took my hand and got our bags and we went inside the cabin looking building.

We checked in and I opened the door with the key. I was still so excited that I just told you to cover my eyes. You lead me to the bed sat me down and asked me to open my eyes. I started crying, I apologized to you for crying because I know you do not like me crying. You asked me why and I told you that you knew this was my dream and you made it come true. I was soo overwhelmed with emotion I gave you a hug and kiss.

Our room was so big traditionally decorated. We had a living room and a kitchenette, by the living room I saw some french door. I went over there when you went to the bathroom. I opened the doors and screamed your name. There was a jacuzzi outside! I turned on every switch that I saw. Then I started taking off my clothing while running to the bathroom. I knocked on the door and told you to grab two towels. I managed to take all my clothes off and jumped in the tub cause I could not wait for you.

To be continued...

Process

Process is the act or steps taken in order to achieve a particular end/ goal/outcome. Process in any setting such as relationships, class rooms, work, and just your everyday life can be easy and for some difficult. Although we do not think of it as such getting a job, breaking up, losing weight, etc. is a process. Even getting your point across is a process.

How do you deal with the process?

Well I never thought of the shortcuts I took or the steps I purposely missed for the sake of time and frustration. But in class we discussed process and it made it evident that not going through the proper process would prolong the end/goal/outcome. I thought about situations in my life where I missed a step or two just to avoid an argument. I realized that was unfair to the persons I had disagreements and even to myself.

I was cutting myself short of the process. My understanding was clouded by my lack of communication with others and myself. I realize now that that is cutting not only myself short but also others. I realize that what I do is the same as a person running away from their problems. I do not want to be that person that runs away when things get uncomfortable or tough. Now since I realized that I have been skipping parts of the process. Since I realize it now I have to do something about it.

When I realize that I am cutting myself or something short no matter how painful or uncomfortable the process is I have to strive to complete the process and not cut it short. In previous situations I've skipped processes and ended up with me and the other person confused. We let it go for the moment but kept on going back to the same conversation over and over and over again. It got annoying but I did not realize what I was doing.

Now I know my process flaws so now I have something to work on.

Wednesday Crush of the Week: Feloni

So I decided to start a blog once every hump day for a little boost to get you through the rest of the week. Hopefully it strikes conversation, blogging, gets you out of writers block, or maybe just as simple as a little eye candy... Enjoy!