So I decided to start a blog once every hump day for a little boost to get you through the rest of the week. Hopefully it strikes conversation, blogging, gets you out of writers block, or maybe just as simple as a little eye candy... Enjoy!
25 August 2010
20 August 2010
Becoming friends with an ex
Hey beautiful people. I'm coming to you with a question/semi-rant. How do you feel about becoming friends with an ex of yours? I am struggling with this question for many reasons one being blurry lines. In most situations if it is determined that you two are going to establish a relationship, there are lines set determining what is appropriate to do or say after a break up. But what happens if those lines are blurred? How do you fix that or deem the friendship as a bad idea?
In my case all but one of my serious relationships turned into friendships after we broke up. I do not see a problem with this because I know that it is strictly a friendship. A couple of times I caught them being inappropriate it was changed and we moved on. All in all the friendships have worked out. We are not the call everyday type of friends but a call here and there never hurts.
The one ex I am not friends with is very challenging for me. She wants to become friends but every time I try to become friends with her she wants to pretty much know my life story since we broke up. Specifically asking questions like: are you single?, Who is she?, What does she look like?, What are you doing with yourself?, I miss you, type stuff. If only you all can hear her when she says it, it's like she needs that information so that she can function in the world. If I do not tell her... oh she will try and find out things about me. I understand that friendships are about sharing but it's never about interrogation or investigation. Maybe one day we can be friends but right now it's not happening.
I'm not saying that it is ever a good idea to become friends with your ex. It just kind of happened with me. So considering boundaries/lines how do you feel about becoming friends with an ex of yours?
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In my case all but one of my serious relationships turned into friendships after we broke up. I do not see a problem with this because I know that it is strictly a friendship. A couple of times I caught them being inappropriate it was changed and we moved on. All in all the friendships have worked out. We are not the call everyday type of friends but a call here and there never hurts.
The one ex I am not friends with is very challenging for me. She wants to become friends but every time I try to become friends with her she wants to pretty much know my life story since we broke up. Specifically asking questions like: are you single?, Who is she?, What does she look like?, What are you doing with yourself?, I miss you, type stuff. If only you all can hear her when she says it, it's like she needs that information so that she can function in the world. If I do not tell her... oh she will try and find out things about me. I understand that friendships are about sharing but it's never about interrogation or investigation. Maybe one day we can be friends but right now it's not happening.
I'm not saying that it is ever a good idea to become friends with your ex. It just kind of happened with me. So considering boundaries/lines how do you feel about becoming friends with an ex of yours?
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19 August 2010
(originally written 05/29/08)
Sometimes i wonder how two of my friends in particular can really be my friends. It is said that you are friends with people that have similar aspirations or something in common with you but I'm not sure what exactly it is. Besides us knowing each other soo well I have nothing in common with them. I appreciate their friendship and glad that I know them.
(originally written 05/08/08)
Since classes are over I've had lots of time to think. I've realized that I'm really not looking for something that is not there like I did previously. My decisions for grad school have been weighing on my mind a lot and I know that it will be a struggle for me to get through it but I have confidence that I'll make it through. I've been moving my stuff back to my mother's house and I hadn't gone upstairs at all until a couple of days ago. Nothing has changed.
Thinking too much! (originally written 06/06/08)
For the past couple of weeks I haven't been doing too much, settling in but not working. So I've tried to occupy my time with fixing little things around the house to keep myself out of my head. Well it has not been working all I've been doing is flooding myself with so many different thoughts, it has even gone as far as bad dreams.
The only solution I can think of is working hard! Well I did get a job but getting to the first day of work is a process. So in a week or two ill start working and my mind won't be on me all day. I can't really describe what I'm thinking about but I'm so tired of thinking about everything. I am ready to work.
The only solution I can think of is working hard! Well I did get a job but getting to the first day of work is a process. So in a week or two ill start working and my mind won't be on me all day. I can't really describe what I'm thinking about but I'm so tired of thinking about everything. I am ready to work.
18 August 2010
Wednesday Crush of the Week: Aïssa Maïga
So I decided to start a blog once every hump day for a little boost to get you through the rest of the week. Hopefully it strikes conversation, blogging, gets you out of writers block, or maybe just as simple as a little eye candy... Enjoy!
Letters (I originally wrote this on 08/01/09)
During the summer I wrote a lot in my purple notebook. I had some stories, poems, and some letters. I wrote letters to some people with no intent of giving the letters to them. My point of writing those letters was really just to say what I had to say and when I ran out of pages in my purple notebook I would bury the notebook under my collection of school books. I ended up talking about what I was doing and ended up getting strict instructions to write a letter within two weeks time and mail it off... I actually managed completing that task and sent it out. I was pretty nervous about sending it so it was a pretty good accomplishment for me.
Even after I sent the letter out I realized that I was even more nervous to call and find out if the letter was received. I was so nervous because I was not ready to hear the comments that may have been coming my way about what I wrote. Well we had a long conversation and I ended up crying. Not out of fear or nervousness but I actually had the opportunity to open up and talk her about how I felt.
Even after I sent the letter out I realized that I was even more nervous to call and find out if the letter was received. I was so nervous because I was not ready to hear the comments that may have been coming my way about what I wrote. Well we had a long conversation and I ended up crying. Not out of fear or nervousness but I actually had the opportunity to open up and talk her about how I felt.
11 August 2010
Wednesday Crush of the Week: Clara Aker Benjamin
So I decided to start a blog once every hump day for a little boost to get you through the rest of the week. Hopefully it strikes conversation, blogging, gets you out of writers block, or maybe just as simple as a little eye candy... Enjoy!
04 August 2010
Wednesday Crush of the Week: Goapele
So I decided to start a blog once every hump day for a little boost to get you through the rest of the week. Hopefully it strikes conversation, blogging, gets you out of writers block, or maybe just as simple as a little eye candy... Enjoy!
02 August 2010
Friday was pay day
Hey beautiful people! It's been a long while. Right now I have a 4 hour commute every day so by the time I get home I'm really not interested in blogging let alone getting on the computer. I am looking to move (cross your fingers in 2 weeks) soon I will be back into the swing of things and hopefully blogging more.
It has been 4 weeks since I started my job. And Friday was my first pay day. Even though I would rather be back in school, I am happy to have a job and excited for the experience I will acquire.
I am assigned to the Child Protective Services (CPS) unit but I have not started receiving cases yet. In a nut shell CPS is an investigative unit. We get neglect, physical, and sexual abuse cases and determine if the allegations are substantiated or not. We then open a case on the family with the agency or refer them to outside sources that can assist the family in various services. Yes we are the people who remove children from their homes if it is too risky or unsafe for the children to be there. But we only do that as a last resort because it is very traumatizing to a child and detrimental to their overall development. What I will be doing is very controversial because I will be dealing with people's lives. I know how important people are and I won't forget that.
I am in training supposedly until the end of September, by then I will start receiving cases. I've met a lot of great people so far and I am happy to be apart of this agency. On the other hand my training supervisor is terrible. She is not much of a supervisor because she is never around and does not really guide us (group of 6) like she is supposed to. Compared to the other supervisors mine is definitely terrible. Despite her short comings we are learning how to fend for ourselves. I've been privileged enough to shadow some great CPS workers and so far it's been interesting. Although this is not the most pleasant or happy job to be in I am having fun.
That's all for now. Have a good week!
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It has been 4 weeks since I started my job. And Friday was my first pay day. Even though I would rather be back in school, I am happy to have a job and excited for the experience I will acquire.
I am assigned to the Child Protective Services (CPS) unit but I have not started receiving cases yet. In a nut shell CPS is an investigative unit. We get neglect, physical, and sexual abuse cases and determine if the allegations are substantiated or not. We then open a case on the family with the agency or refer them to outside sources that can assist the family in various services. Yes we are the people who remove children from their homes if it is too risky or unsafe for the children to be there. But we only do that as a last resort because it is very traumatizing to a child and detrimental to their overall development. What I will be doing is very controversial because I will be dealing with people's lives. I know how important people are and I won't forget that.
I am in training supposedly until the end of September, by then I will start receiving cases. I've met a lot of great people so far and I am happy to be apart of this agency. On the other hand my training supervisor is terrible. She is not much of a supervisor because she is never around and does not really guide us (group of 6) like she is supposed to. Compared to the other supervisors mine is definitely terrible. Despite her short comings we are learning how to fend for ourselves. I've been privileged enough to shadow some great CPS workers and so far it's been interesting. Although this is not the most pleasant or happy job to be in I am having fun.
That's all for now. Have a good week!
Sent on the Sprint® Now Network from my BlackBerry®
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