On a path looking for the Womyn in me, In the distance wishing for those dreams to be reality, Hoping that today will be the day when all makes sense. Along the way meeting people to enlighten me, Giving me the feel about what life could be. Gyrls and Womyn alike join me on this journey we call life...
27 May 2009
Question
If I don't trust myself to love you, how can I trust you to love me in return?
Quite an interesting question; my love doesn't come that easy. And for those words to have escaped my lips, I must first trust you to love you. I cannot love out of nothing at all.
People and relationship are unpredictable. That is why I believe trust lies in the core of the foundation in which relationships are built. I see love as a double edged sword in which both parties should meet in the middle or close enough to it, otherwise if it’s unbalanced, someone is bound to get hurt. If someone said to me, "if I don't trust myself to love you, how can I trust you to love me in return? ”, the first thing that would come to my mind… risky. It's a risk, for she lacks belief, confidence, and the ability to bring stability in not only herself but to her end. Which would have an affect to my end as well. She doesn't see those common factors in me nor does she allow me the ability to bring that from my end. How would we ever be able to meet on common ground? Love is give and take. The question for me is, even if I know these are the odds, am I willing to take the risk of making myself vulnerable, hoping she would meet me half way? For me, at this point...no, but I know others who would. It's 50/50, sometimes the odds are in your favor and sometimes they aren't. It really depends on the people involved.
Nona J: That question of course would effect both parties. Relationships are a risk and we always take chances. I think the question is a give and take and it asks if love is fair without it.
Tmboy: In the case of love and fairness. Love maybe selfish because you want that person in every way and all to yourself. But at some point you think of the other person's feelings which are expressed or not. That person may love you in return but that person may not be getting what they want in return from you. And for me that would break my heart knowing that I am not completing my half in every way they want me to. I am not sure how you learn to trust yourself... I figure it out I will let you know.
EvolvingC7: I agree it would affect both parties....I think the question is very honest, but takes an unbiased eye to recognize it. Do you think love is fair without it?
7 comments:
an excellent qn ... I'll be thinking on that one for a while
Quite an interesting question; my love doesn't come that easy. And for those words to have escaped my lips, I must first trust you to love you. I cannot love out of nothing at all.
Ty: Thought of the question on my way home from class listening to music... I'm still thinking about it though
AJ the DJ: That makes sense but some people do not see it that way because it doesn't matter to them.
People and relationship are unpredictable. That is why I believe trust lies in the core of the foundation in which relationships are built. I see love as a double edged sword in which both parties should meet in the middle or close enough to it, otherwise if it’s unbalanced, someone is bound to get hurt. If someone said to me, "if I don't trust myself to love you, how can I trust you to love me in return? ”, the first thing that would come to my mind… risky. It's a risk, for she lacks belief, confidence, and the ability to bring stability in not only herself but to her end. Which would have an affect to my end as well. She doesn't see those common factors in me nor does she allow me the ability to bring that from my end. How would we ever be able to meet on common ground? Love is give and take. The question for me is, even if I know these are the odds, am I willing to take the risk of making myself vulnerable, hoping she would meet me half way? For me, at this point...no, but I know others who would. It's 50/50, sometimes the odds are in your favor and sometimes they aren't. It really depends on the people involved.
Nona J: That question of course would effect both parties. Relationships are a risk and we always take chances. I think the question is a give and take and it asks if love is fair without it.
Tmboy: In the case of love and fairness. Love maybe selfish because you want that person in every way and all to yourself. But at some point you think of the other person's feelings which are expressed or not. That person may love you in return but that person may not be getting what they want in return from you. And for me that would break my heart knowing that I am not completing my half in every way they want me to. I am not sure how you learn to trust yourself... I figure it out I will let you know.
EvolvingC7: I agree it would affect both parties....I think the question is very honest, but takes an unbiased eye to recognize it. Do you think love is fair without it?
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